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Who would you rather be with? Your best friend who loves pizza as much as you do, who's crazy about basketball like you are, who watches the same programs on TV as you; or your next-door neighbor who's a vegetarian, hates sports, and watches those shows that will bore you to dreamland? The answer is obvious. You would want to be around
people who have the same behaviors, attitudes, and values as yours. Birds of the same feather flock together. Bookworms like each other's company because they
share a common bond - their love for books. Basketball fanatics flock together
because they can RELATE to each other's interests and ideas. If you really want someone to like and trust you,
you've got to exhibit the same qualities as that person. And there’s no better
way to do this than by using body language. Here’s how it goes: Match their facial expressions, gestures, posture,
speech, styles, actions, breathing patterns, values and beliefs. Put yourself
in their shoes. In other words, BE THEM. By doing this, you are also matching their way of thinking.
You may easily adapt to their inner thoughts and views. You may also do some crossover matching. For example,
you talk at the same rate as their breathing. Or you can scratch your chin
every time their eyes blink. Get the
idea? Be genuinely interested and curious with everything
you can find out about them. Discover their attitude. Know their life story.
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