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This is what we call mirroring. But mirroring should not be confused with mimicry. You should act with courtesy and caution. Never let the person you're mirroring be aware of what you're doing. Just imagine acting out shamelessly what the other person is doing. Every time he stands, you stand. When he scratches his head, you also scratch your head. That would be insulting. Never let the person you’re mirroring have any chance to think that you are mocking him. Your main objective should be to influence the
subconscious. Even if a person is not aware that you're mirroring him, his
subconscious mind realizes it. The person will subconsciously be at ease when you
duplicate his manners indirectly. He will feel very comfortable if you're both
on the same level. Correspond with Their Moods If a person you’re mirroring have lots of problems,
don't come to him in a joyous mood and say, "Don't worry about it. Let's
watch a movie so that you'll forget about whatever's bugging you." He’s in a foul mood. He expects you to feel for him,
to empathize with him. Match his disposition first, then say something like,
"I feel bad for you. If there's anything I can do to help, just let me
know." All he wants right now is to
be with someone who has the same mood as he has. A word of warning though. If someone has some really
big emotional problems, and you mirror that person, you run the risk of
actually absorbing his emotions. So do this activity in a low-risk situation.
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