Love – The Verb, Not The FeelingLove, or rather the
lack of it constitutes the loneliness breeding in a person’s heart. It is a
scary fact to note that we are largely shaped by others (remember the sum of
five people we spend most of our time with) who hold our destiny in THEIR
hands. We are what we are
today – a product of those
who loved us or have refused to love us. Love gives life to
others. But what is most important is to remember is that in order to love
someone else effectively, we
must love ourselves first! You can’t give what you don’t have! You may think you
‘love’ a beautiful girl or a handsome guy if you don’t love yourself (there is
a song that goes: I am nobody until I met you or my life is meaningless until
you came into the picture) but that is not love. You may admire that
person because he or she is good looking, you may worship that person because
you think he or she is better, you may even sacrifice your life for him or her
for your own selfish, self-gratifying ego, but you do not love. Love is a verb. It is an action. The feeling of ‘love’ is
actually a product of the verb or action. By loving yourself first, it forms the basis or foundation by which
you love others without which it is merely a baseless act of self-deception
that appears to be loving. But how do we love
ourselves if we have never been loved? In the next chapter we will explore this
area.
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