I
hope you have got the hang of what we meant by working backwards now? Good.
There is another catch involved in this process. There is a chance that one of
the friends that you made may have read this book too and maybe the proposal
may come from the other end. If it does, then well and good; for it saves you
the ritual.
Mr.
Right and Ms. Wrong
But
then, what if the person who proposes to you wasn’t really what you had in
mind? Well, the choice is yours of course; you can take it or leave it. But
there is a point worth considering over here. If we can find someone that we
love that is good, but if we find some one who loves us, isn’t that better?
But
I would also like to add a word over here. Suppose some one does come and
propose to you but unfortunately, you are not in the least interested? You have
every right to turn the proposal down but please do it gracefully. There is no
need to hurt the other person’s ego. This person is obviously a friend of
yours, and surely you care deeply for them.
However, if you know that you cannot marry this person, a turned-down
proposal is better than a divorce. Try
to explain your feelings in the gentlest way possible