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Take your
husband's nearness for granted. Be not troubled over the many things of
appearance. Have faith in him. If there is any "drawing nearer"
to be done see that you draw near to him in faith and love. Instead of
mentally or verbally sitting down on his motives, words or acts, try to
feel as he does, that you may understand him. AS WE GEOW IN
UNDERSTANDING OF ANOTHER WE GROW IN LOVE AND REALIZATION OF OUR
NEARNESS TO THAT ONE. In proportion as we dislike or are repelled by
any person OR HIS ACTIONS, in that proportion we fail to understand
him. As one human
being is revealed to another the sense of nearness grows. Now do you
imagine that distrust and censure will help a soul reveal itself? Of
course not. But if you can be comfortable and indulgent to a man, and
especially if you can cultivate a real admiring confidence in him, he will
unfold his very heart of hearts to you. It is you who must come near
in faith and love, if you would find your husband near to you. To sum up: 1. You and
your husband ARE close together - so close you are One. 2. If you
would feel the truth of this you must come to your husband in faith-full
love, and you must not allow yourself to condemn or judge,
verbally or mentally, his revelations of himself. You must vibrate with
him where you can, and keep still in faith where you can't
understand him and meet him. 3. You must
persist in thus doing, until faith and love and understanding
become the habit of your life. 4. The same
rules apply if you would feel your nearness to any other person, or to
all persons. Every man is
in embryo a good and thoughtful and loving husband. A wise wife will give
him the loving, full-of-faith, appreciative atmosphere which
encourages development. "We are
all just as good as we know how to be, and as bad as we dare be." And
we are all growing better. Why not chant the beauties of the good instead
of imagining it our "duty" to eternally bark against the bad? It is said
there cannot be a model husband without a model wife, and vice versa.
True. Then if yours is not a model husband don't assume that you are a
model wife fitted to judge and admonish him.
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