judgment is straighter than a woman's. But judgment is a shallow thing,

based upon already revealed facts. Woman's intuition goes to the heart

of things and flashes facts into revelation. Women as a rule see

farther, but are apt to misjudge what is close at hand. Only as man

wakes in woman and woman in man do right judgment and love commune. Why

not judge with the husband, as I feel with the wife? Is any man

totally depraved?

 

Jane feels abused because she thinks I think that in family strains

the woman is more at fault. In a sense I do. Women cannot only make

and unmake empires but they DO make or fail to make harmony at home.

Why, men with all their power are mere rag babies in the hands of women

of tact. Women are the real power in the world - the power behind the

throne. If only they would develop that particular kind of power instead

of coming around in front of the throne to lay down the law! - instead of

measuring their man-strength against man. Real woman-strength will

move the most stubborn of men. If I "blame" the woman (I blame neither,

any more than I blame a child for childishness) it is because I know

she is the ruling power. Her responsibility is determined by her

real power.

 

And above all a Taurus woman may rule her home - and does. Either she

rules by force - for she has more than her share of the man in her - and

makes war and trouble for herself and others; or she learns her lesson

and rules by loving tact; in which case her husband rises up and calls

her blessed. The woman who knows and rules herself is the woman of

Proverbs XXXI, 10th to 31st verses. Her husband is honored among men

because he is honored at home; and because he is honored he lives up

to it. Why, girls, you hold your husband's destiny in the hollow of

your hand, in a far greater sense than any man holds a woman's.

 

But as I said before, it takes two to make an unhappy home and either

one can bring harmony out of discord. Any ordinary woman can do it if

she will. And any extraordinary man can do it quite as well as an

ordinary woman.

 

This is not a question of what "society" admits; it is a personal

question between one man and one woman. It is a partnership, whether

society so admits or not. And the failure of one of the partners to

live up to the expressed or implied agreement does not justify the other

party in the misdoing of her part as long as they live together. Does

one theft or murder justify another? No! Neither does a neglectful

husband justify a scolding or spiteful wife, nor vice versa.

 

Two people marry first, for the happiness of love; and second, for

home privileges. No matter whether love flees or not, as long as they

keep up the home-privileges partnership it should be done in the spirit

of harmony. Remember, it takes two to destroy harmony and either one