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A
MYSTERY. "I desire
to come face to face with the person or persons who are controlling
and influencing my husband against his home and children and myself. He has
been estranged from us all for several years, although sleeping under
the same roof. Once I can find out the person or cause of his actions I
can remove the effect, for I shall know just what to do. I want to solve
the mystery." The chances
are you will never find that out, and if you did it would do you
absolutely no good. Your husband is no dumb fool to be "influenced"
this way or that by two women! He is a man with ideas of his own. If he
was disappointed in you as wife, he has possibly turned to some other
woman. If so the more you pry and suspect and hint around, the more
positively he will turn away from you. If you "found out" and made things
warm for him or another he would simply hate and despise you and be the
harder set against you. This is the Law. The thing for
you to do is to recognize your husband's RIGHT to make and answer for his
own mistakes. Then drop the whole thing from your mind and
calculations. Then treat
your husband as you would any man who came to visit you. Make yourself as
attractive and cultured and agreeable as possible, and look out for his
comfort, but never get in his way nor question his doings. Stand square
up on your own feet and be as fine a woman as you know how to be - as
gracious a one. If he does love some other woman it may be but a temporary
infatuation and if you are attractive and kind and sensible and
independent enough he may return to his first love in his own good time. If not, why,
no matter. Just you get interested in life on your own account and
let him do as he will. If he does care for another woman he deserves
credit for not deserting you, as many a man would have done. Just respect
and honor him for the good that is in him, instead of condemning him
mentally because the good does not show just according to your ideas of
how it should. Love does not
stay put, no matter how hard folks try to keep it put. All we can do
is to be as lovable as possible and thus do our part to attract love. It may be that
you are simply a sentimental goose who imagines her husband is
"influenced" away from her, because, forsooth, he does not
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