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THE
TRUTH ABOUT DIVORCE. In January
Psychic and Occult Views and Reviews the editor, M.T.C. Wing, presents
a view of "Wives and Work" which is anything but an occult view of
the subject. He evidently still clings to the old notion that
man was made for the family, and not the family for man. He inveighs
against George D. Herron and Elbert Hubbard et al because they permitted
themselves to be separated from their wives. Apparently he thinks the
chief end of man is to tote some woman around on a chip, and the fact
that in his callow youth man picked out (or was picked out by) the wrong
woman, cuts no figure in the matter. Man must keep on toting her
even if he has to give up his life work by which he has been enabled to
supply the chip, not to mention the other things the woman demands. All of which
is the very superficial view of the world at large, and has no place
among new thought, "occult" teachings. It is entirely too obvious - to
the old-fashioned sentimentalist, who is blind to the real facts in cases
of separation. The
sentimentalist gets just two views of the family, and draws his hasty
conclusions therefrom. He sees first a happy family, a charming, clinging
little simpleton of a wife, with half a dozen or so infants clinging to
her skirts and bosom, and her round eyes lifted in adorable helplessness
to the face of that great, strong lord and master, her husband. In
his second view of the family he beholds this strong man turn his back
upon this adoring family and walk deliberately forth to self-gratification,
leaving them to perish from hunger and grief. Fired with these
pretty and entirely fanciful pictures the superficial observer burns
with indignation and calls down anathema upon the head of the deserter. The fact is
that no man ever deserts a family under such conditions. There is
always a long period of disintegration before any family goes to pieces - a
period of which both man and wife are well aware. When a separation
comes it is really a relief to both parties. The only real pain in
such cases comes from the spirit of revenge, or a desire on the part of
one or the other to pose as injured innocence, that she or he may rake
in the sympathy and fire the indignation of just such uninformed
friends as M.T.C. Wing. I have known a
lot of people who separated - known them intimately and observed them
well. In not one of these cases did the deserted party claim to love
the deserter. In all there was a real relief when it
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