CHAPTER II

CHAPTER II.

 

 

A TALE OF WOE.

 

"Why is it that, in more than two-thirds of families the wife and mother

bears not only the children but the burdens and heartaches? The husband

supplies the money (generally not enough), the wife has the care of a

growing and increasing family, the best of everything is saved for

'Father' and he is waited on, etc. If the children annoy him he goes to

his club; if the wife dies, why there are plenty more women for the

asking. Thousands of women are simply starving for Love and men are

either willfully blind or wholly and utterly selfish. You possibly know

that this is quite true. Another thing that has caused me many a time to

question everything: During the Christmas holidays many times I have

seen half-clad, hungry, shivering little ones gazing longingly into the

wonderful show windows, wanting probably just one toy, while children no

more worthy drive by in carriages, having more than they want. Love,

home, mother, everything; on the other hand hunger, want, blues (many

times), and both God's children. Let us hear what you have to say about

this." B. B.

 

Why does the mother in two-thirds of the families bear not only the

children but the burdens and heartaches? Because she is too thoughtless

and inert not to. It is easier to submit to bearing children than it

is to rise up and take command of her own body. It is easier to carry

burdens than to wake up and fire them. It is easier to "bear" things

and grumble than it is to kick over the traces and change them. To be

sure, most women are yet under the hypnotic spell of the old race belief

that it is woman's duty to "submit" herself to any kind of an old

husband; but that is just what I said - women find it easier to go

through life half asleep rather than to think for themselves. Paul

says a woman is not to think, she is to ask her husband to think for

her. (At least that is what the translators say Paul says. Privately,

I have my suspicions that those manly translators helped Paul to say a

bit more than he meant to.) It is easier to let her husband think for

her even when she doesn't like his thoughts. So she uses her brain in

grumbling instead of thinking.

 

People who don't think are ruled by feeling. Women feel. They feel not

only for themselves but for other people. They shoulder the burdens of

the whole family and a few outside the family. They do it themselves -

because it is easier to feel than to think. Nobody walks up to a woman

and says, "Here - I have a burden that's very heavy - you carry it

whilst I go off and have a good time." No. The woman simply takes the

burden and hugs it and "feels" it - and prides herself on doing it. And

maybe the thing she hugs as a burden is no burden at all to the other

people in the family. My dear, women as a rule are chumps. They'd rather

 



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