notice your partner.  This can cause your spouse to feel hurt and rejected.  It can even cause them to stop taking care of themselves and trying to be attractive for you.  Even worse, it could cause them to try and look especially nice for other people.  We all know what that can lead to!

 

As we grow older, our bodies change.  It’s inevitable.  Just as our bodies change, our relationships change.  It can be a huge help to your relationship if you reassure your partner that you still find them attractive and sexy.  Don’t assume that your partner knows this – tell them!

       This is where communication is important.  One woman who had been married for ten years simply came out and asked her husband, “If I ask you how I look, would you say that I look beautiful?”  He asked if he should say that even if he didn’t feel like it.  She told him, “Yes, I would.  It helps me feel better about myself.”  Her husband did this for awhile and they found their marriage improving dramatically from just a simple compliment.

       Some women feel like their husbands should compliment them on their own, but sometimes men feel uncomfortable doing this.  It’s kind of humorous, that when dating, men are fine with complimenting their mate, but once married, those compliments seem to dry up.  Don’t let this happen in your marriage!  Compliment your mate – even on the little things.

            My husband is the worst about offering up compliments to me.  I have learned to take anything I can get.  For example, one day I spent the whole day cleaning the house.  Everything sparkled and I was very pleased with myself.  When my husband came home, he told me how nice everything looked, it made me feel wonderful.

       We are constantly working on the complimenting thing.  I try to show him what I mean by complimenting him myself.  If he looks especially good in his police uniform, I