tell him so.  The look on his face is worth the effort, and sometimes he even returns the compliment!

       Remember when you first met and found yourself talking for hours and hours as you got to know each other?  So often, when we marry, those conversations die off as we go about taking care of the business of life.  We don’t make time to talk to each other like we used to.  Your feelings about your spouse may not have changed, but you just express them differently.

            In the beginning, you listen to the other person to learn more about them.  Once you know these things, you may feel like you’ve run out of things to say and don’t find any need to really listen anymore. 

However, women experience greater intimacy by sharing their thoughts and feelings.  This might make most men cringe, but it’s a fact that most women are talkers – even if what they have to say might not seem important.  This makes men feel like they have to solve whatever problems their wives are having putting undue pressure on them.

       Instead of trying to get your partner to talk, try to get them to listen.  When you just sit and listen to your partner without the pressure of having to provide solutions to problems, you will relax more and be more willing to share your own victories and losses.  When you take the time to talk – even about the mundane things – you’ll realize that you’re in this marriage together and you will experience even great closeness!

       You’ve heard people say that it’s the little things that mean the most in a relationship.  When you’re trying to get your romance back, those little things can make the biggest difference in a marriage filled with romance or a marriage filled with angst.