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What little things are we talking about? Taking out the trash, unloading the
dishwasher, washing her car, rubbing his feet after a rough day. In the beginning, you might feel like this is
the best way to show your love, but after the marriage, maybe the fact that you
are sharing your income and lives are enough.
Unfortunately, this is just not true. Men and women alike appreciate the little things. When you can express your love by doing
something small, your partner will know that you realize those little things
can add up. You are making your partner
happy and they will feel like you are really a team. In
early courtship, a man is on the hunt. He is completely focused on winning over
the woman he cares for and will do whatever it takes to be successful. His
ability to focus so intently makes a big impact on the woman who is the center
of his desire. Problems begin only after he succeeds. Having won her, he relaxes and redirects his energy
towards a new goal. Most
marriages start out very loving and both partners are happy as clams. Then, as
months passed, one or the other might become disenchanted. You talk less and
less. The change might be so gradual that you don’t even notice it. Eventually,
it becomes clear that one of you is genuinely unhappy. At
this point, you have to realize that time is what your partner needs in order
to feel loved and needed again. Try
devoting 20 minutes exclusively to them.
Make them the focus of those 20 minutes and shut out everything else
that might try to distract you. Employ
some of the tactics we’ve already talked about:
listen to their concerns, talk about your day, dream about the future,
and reminisce about the past. Devoting this time to your partner will be freeing, liberating, and a moment you can share. Both of you will
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