wildflowers in a drinking glass sitting on the kitchen table.  Now, they were ragweed blossoms, and I am allergic, so when I asked him what those were, he told me, “I saw them by the side of the road and thought they were pretty – just like you.”

I took a Claritin and smiled that my husband was thinking of me while he was toiling away at his job.  It didn’t matter what kind of flower it was, it was the gesture that meant the most.  He got huge brownie points for that one!  Even if my eyes did swell up!

Eat by candlelight.  It doesn’t matter if it’s a Domino’s pizza or a five-course gourmet meal, candles can present an atmosphere that is amazingly conducive to romance.  Have you ever eaten pizza by candlelight?  Try it!  You’ll be surprised at how romantic it really is!

Pay attention when your spouse mentions things he or she likes or expresses interest in something that could make a good gift, such as a new CD, a book, or theater, concert, sports tickets.

Be on the lookout for ideas for birthday, holiday, and anniversary gifts, plus "no reason" surprise gifts. It's very flattering to know that someone really tried to find a gift that was just what you wanted.

Frequently offer foot massages, shoulder massages, and full-body massages to your spouse. You'll get plenty of romantic brownie points in your "relationship bank account" if you keep some great-smelling lotion handy and take ten minutes to massage your spouse's tired feet at the end of a long work day.

Note: If you expect to be rewarded for your efforts by sex, you won't accumulate any points for being romantic. Your spouse will just think you have an ulterior motive when you offer a massage in the future.  Do this unselfishly and enjoy the rewards!