Seek both resolutions and solutions.  As you seek a resolution, remember that you are two different people, and the resolution needs to reveal not an either/or but a both/ and quality. Resolutions aren't about winning; they're about a process of respect and intimacy, growth and emergence.

Guard against the very dangerous belief that if you're having difficulty with your partner, that means your relationship is in trouble. More than likely it means your relationship needs a tune-up and an oil change. Only in romantic fantasy does everything go smoothly without attention, care and change.

       So we’ve given you some great tools to try and bring romance back into your marriage.  Do you want something a little more specific?

 

HERE’S WHAT YOU CAN DO

       Even though most people should come up with their sweetness off the top of their head based on how they feel for their partner, some people simply do not have the capacity to come up with their own ideas.  Let’s go ahead and give you some specifics to work with. 

       You know that we have said it’s a very romantic idea to leave notes for your spouse.  What do you say in those notes?  Try a few of these on for size.

 

·        I’m so glad you’re my husband/wife

·        I smile when I think about you!

·        You make my life wonderful

·        Remember when we said “I Do”, well I still do!

·        I’m so glad the “better” is more than the “worse”