This means telling the other person what you are thinking as soon as you have sorted it out yourselves. Don't feel like you have to hide or sugar-coat the truth about a situation or unload on a friend how you are truly feeling without first telling each other.

This doesn't mean you should never talk to friends and other family members about your thoughts or what's happening in our lives. Actually, it’s quite the contrary.

What is important is that you agree to tell each other first, things that are personal and feelings that come up about the other person.

If you find that you have been complaining to other people about your partner or someone close to you and you are not telling your partner how you are feeling, stop.

By talking to others first about your issues instead of the person involved, you will continue to erode the safety and trust in your relationship. By talking to others about your issues instead of the person your conflict is with, you could be playing the role of the victim or martyr.

Believe it or not, you may actually be enjoying the sympathy and attention from other people that you are getting from complaining about the situation with your partner.

If you want to build trust and create a close, connected relationship, this kind of behavior has to stop.  Choosing to let your partner know where you stand and what is going on inside you is not only a way to build trust but also a way to deepen your connection as well.

When men and women enter into a relationship, what they are really looking for is a best friend; some one they know will love them no matter what. Deep inside of you there are powers that if discovered and used would allow