kindnesses are the oil

kindnesses are the oil.  Without the oil, it will grind.  With it, it glides.”[1]

 

And how about the simplest reasons for marriage such as:  silly little jokes, hugs and cuddling, traveling together, laughing together, quiet times together, mutual friends, sexual intimacy, pillow talk, kissing and making up?  Can anyone really put a price tag on these simple pleasures?  Don’t they echo the saying that the best things in life are free?

 

Oh yes, there is love in relationships, but there is deeper love in a marriage that is on its way to its 25th or 50th year.  Sir Arthur Wing Pinero sums it nicely:  “those who love deeply never grow old; they may die of old age, but they die young.”  So did James Thurber:  “A lady of 47 who has been married 27 years and has six children knows what love really is and once described it to me like this:  love is what you’ve been through with somebody.

 

People who have remained happily married are those who realize gradually that there are actually two marriage contracts, not just one. 

 

 


[1] Paula Dore of Glenview, Illinois, who participated in the National Marriage Encounter, an initiative that is all over the United States as compiled by Michael Leach and Therese J. Borchard (editors).  I Like Being Married.  Doubleday Books.  New York. 2002.



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