It takes practice to learn that gender differences do not
constitute threats to a marriage, but a cause for celebration and an
opportunity to expand an individual’s sphere of experience.
Try to remember that your partner is not your mirror
image. In a loving, effective
partnership, individuality and separateness are wholesome concepts that each
spouse must work at.
Bill Cosby, the famous American comedian and still married to
the same woman, said that these gender differences – that women are not just
men who can have babies and men are not just women who spike footballs – give
marriage its vitality, its dynamics and its delights…He says, “Americans may
like the style called unisex, but the wiser French have a devout appreciation
of the wonder they call la difference.”
A true understanding of these
gender differences should therefore lead us to the proper notion of a
marriage. While many people