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Question
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Yes
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No
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1
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I think that my relationship can be even stronger if I try
to resolve my problems with my spouse
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2
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My spouse and I both think of ‘we’ before we consider ‘me’
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3
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I believe my spouse really loves me
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4
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We can disagree without getting angry and raising our
voices
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5
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My spouse still shows me affection and tells me what I do
well
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6
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I know how my spouse thinks and feels most of the time
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7
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We talk about important things in our lives and our fears,
hopes and dreams
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8
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We both listen to each other and respect each other’s
opinions
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9
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I think the good times outweigh the bad times in our
marriage
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Question
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Yes
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No
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10
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I find it hard to talk about marital problems with my
spouse
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11
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Marriage isn’t what I thought it was going to be
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12
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I don’t feel like we have control over our relationship
anymore
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13
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I feel like my spouse ignores me a lot of the time
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14
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Many times I feel disappointed in my spouse
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15
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I don’t remember why I got married
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Questions 1-9:
If you answered ‘yes’ to 3-5
of these questions, give yourself 2 points
If you answered ‘yes’ to 6-9
of these questions, give yourself 4 points
Questions 10-15:
If you answered ‘yes’ to 2-3
of these questions, subtract 2 points
If you answered ‘yes’ to 4-5
of these questions, subtract 4 points
What is your total?
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If your total is
4, the condition of your marriage is good
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If your total is
2-3 your marriage is not in bad shape
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If your total is
below 2, you should look at your marriage and talk to your spouse about
improving this relationship before divorce becomes a serious
consideration.
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If your total is
a negative number, you probably already know you have some significant issues to
resolve.