If your spouse does not want to go, you
need to carefully ask how he or she will be guided to work through the issues
and if they feel comfortable handling the situation without guidance.
Whether or not you use a professional, be
sure that you are both committed to working through the process and to staying
on track.
If you are not ready or committed to work
through your problems, there is the potential to spend a lot of money on
professional counseling and get nothing in the bargain.