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And consider this: 90% of the
couples who reported the UNHAPPIEST marriages, but stayed in the relationship,
later reported that they were ‘happily married’ during a five-year follow-up
study. There is still much research to be done to determine the success rate of
marriage versus divorce in turning unhappy people into happy people. Under what circumstances does a divorce makes sense, and when you should
try to stay with your marriage, and improve it with a reasonable expectation of
success? For now, the statistics and studies show intriguing
results and are, at the very least, and encouraging sign for those who want to
stay with their spouse. So, how would you categorize your own marriage? Is your marriage really in trouble, or do you have
the kinds of normal rocks and bumps that most people have, and exactly how do
you TELL if you need help? Maybe you are just like everyone else. Maybe this is as happy as a marriage is
supposed to be? If you have been married for more than a few weeks,
you can vouch for the fact that marriage is not like it is in the fairy tales. You meet the person of your dreams, and fall in
love. You get married in a beautiful
ceremony, and or course you live happily ever
after! It really depends on when you look at the
marriage. For example, some couples marry young and, in that
case, husbands and wives may take some time to mature and to get the hang of a
mature relationship. If you look at these couples in year two of their
marriage, they may seem troubled. But,
by year five, they may have hit their stride.
Whereas some young couples are so young and immature
when they marry that they grow in different directions as they age and, their
marriage is BETTER in the early years than it is after five years together. Then, there are the couples that have specific
issues to resolve. These issues may
relate to one or more of the following: Ø Sexual
compatibility or desire Ø One
person likes to resolve issues by fighting, while the other is more cerebral
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